2023 - The Year of Fire
According to a recent psychological study, our self criticism decreases, & our confidence and decisiveness increase in our forties. So how about we back ourselves this year, and let the world see our Fire?
Ready and raring to go
On the eve of each birthday, one group of friends would ask “how are you feeling? You know, how are you…. FEELING?”
I soon realised the concern was that a dark cloud would appear as we realised another year had passed, we were a year older and THAT WAS BAD.
Some years I’d feel abit weird and would say so. “Yeah, I suppose, I should be married by now, shouldn’t I? Should be living in a big house? Should I be spending Sunday’s at the playground?” They nodded, right answer, poor thing.
But on my 40th birthday I felt quite simply bloody fabulous.
I loved my life.
I was in a career I loved.
I had the best friends I could ask for.
I was in good shape.
I was single, child-free, had an awesome family.
I was content. My mental health was tip top. As was my physical health.
And I was so very grateful.
Soz society, was I not meant to feel this good?
Flipping societies so-called script
My commitment is to flip the script.
Celebrate the good bits
Dig deep during the tough times - you’ve done it before, you can do it again
Be there for my loved ones, as they have they been there for me (amen)
Laugh, smile, notice all of the good things around me as often as I can
Catch myself if Neggy Nancy is out - where’s that coming from then? Some self compassion, and a reset
Believe in myself and go after what feels right in work, life, love
Exercise. But also, eat the cake
Shine a light on being happy at 40, reminding the world happiness comes at any age and any stage :-)
